nothing happened with either of those girls despite my best efforts. i talked about it to a friend of mine last night and i pinpointed a couple of big mistakes i made: first, when i met that French girl and she mentioned she has a boyfriend, i should have just moved on because all she was doing was reminding herself of that while i was putting the moves on her, and i should have made her feel better by ignoring the subject entirely. instead, because i'm an idiot, i tried to use logic to argue that a long distance relationship doesn't work. she actually DOES want to end it with him, but that made her dig her heels in i guess. i asked her back to our flat that night and at first she agreed, then about 30 minutes later she changed her mind. what happened in those 30 minutes i'm not sure... social behaviour is so fascinating and hard to understand.
i don't even mind, really. every time i talk to a girl i feel like it goes a little better than the last time. it's all practise.
Yeah..your probably not going to encourage a girl to cheat on her boyfriend with you by logically arguing about the failures of long term relationships :P
ReplyDeleteThat said, i seriously hope you aren't taking all this stuff from the Real Social Dynamics thing. I'd be careful with that, because it seems sensible at first but can fuck you up (there are tonnes on the people on the internet who can attest to that.
You probably don't have much to worry about though, always thought you had a sensible attitude to this whole pick up artist thing. Just remember that there has been centuries of research and discussion on the human condition and romance in psychology, philosophy, art and so on. Is it really so likely some chubby blond guy has just solved it?
i'm taking the absolute basics from this stuff because i am a pretty unsocialised person. there are some pretty obvious mistakes i repeat with every girl i meet and because i'm not used to being around them i'm not going to learn from it or know where i've been going wrong without someone pointing it out. so that girl from Meatliquor who flaked on me after i got her number? i see where i fucked that up now, being cool in person and then not cool in text. i'm not trying to learn how to pick girls up, just how to talk to people without freaking them out or making them uncomfortable. another mistake i repeat all the time is to engage girls in really emotional topics like our family histories (obviously a huge risk for me because my family history can kill an atmosphere in 5 seconds)
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